Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Why Two and Four are my Favorite Ages, and How We Found Our Groove


I was sitting back watching the boys playing the other day and silently said to myself, “I have to write this down”. We’re in the perfect groove right now, and there were so many times I thought the day would never come. Once I sat down, the words started to pour out, a summary of all of challenges, trials, and tribulations of having two little boys so close in age.  


Oskar was 21 months old when August was born. Two under 2 absolutely rocked my world. Oskar was still not sleeping through the night when we brought a newborn home and was going through a terrible sleep regression (during nap time, too) right at the worst time possible. It seemed as though either Oskar or August were up at every hour of the night, taking turns screaming. I remember Googling "How many days of not sleeping will kill you." Turns out, the record held of consecutive days of non-sleep is 11, and I'm confident I need to submit our paperwork to take that title over. It took 6 full months after August was born for Oskar to consistently sleep 8:30pm-6am, and a full year for August to do the same. We rejoiced over any stretch of sleep that got us through to sunrise. Daytime felt just as tough, fueled by little sleep on anybody’s part. Oskar really struggled with the big brother transition and did anything and everything to get our attention diverted from the baby, including hitting, kicking, and biting. There was no excitement on his end over taking care of a little brother, changing diapers, giving him a bath. All of the “big brother” books painted a picture that never fit our reality. Most days involved me throwing on a sweatshirt, skipping showers, ordering take-out…surviving. On most days, work was a welcome break, even for just a handful of hours, from the depth of the challenges I felt I was facing at home.

Ages: 21 months and newborn



But then, ever so slowly, and without even realizing, the dynamic began to change. Age 3 for Oskar brought with it a greater level of maturity. All of the toddler fueled hitting, kicking, and biting fell to the wayside. Things got…easier. The boys co-existed fine enough, but life still involved me furiously chasing around a new walker who put everything in his mouth while also trying to imaginatively play with a 3 year old, who wanted me to be a monster, a dragon, a bad guy, a robber, or a puppy dog. He still thrived on and needed 1:1 play so much of the time, and without this outlet, quickly turned to his own destructive devices. There was never a second where I was able to turn my back, to take a break. Even though we needed to leave the 4 walls of our home, public places were the most daunting. August took off like a madman, and Oskar needed drug along, still too little to not keep an eye on. I was constantly split in half, eyes darting from one to the other, always panicked and trying to herd them together. 



Ages: 3 and 1 
  
And then, magic happened. Ages 4 and 2. Sometimes, life feels like it moves so slowly, and then all at once, you arrive. This is what all those people meant when they said, “You’ll just love having them so close in age.” For all those years before, I used to nod while simultaneously hanging on for dear life, telling whichever stranger that I sure hoped so. 


Little things start to fall into place that you never realized would make such a difference. Once August started talking, the dominos started to fall in the best way possible. The interaction between the two brought a whole new dynamic. They talk, they play. And sure. They argue. But they talk. So as often as I can, I try to make them work things out on their own. Oskar is also quite a tattle tale these days, which works in my favor because I know he’ll be the first to report if August is really up to something he shouldn’t be. His brother is slowly replacing my need to play with him around the clock, which leaves me time to clean, cook dinner, or get myself ready. Of course, I still step in from time to time and pretend with the both of them, but I never had the chance to take a breath and make a meal while watching the two of them play without me. It never happened before now.

Ages: 4 and 2



I can leave the backdoor open and the kids can play outside together, in our fenced backyard, only needing checked on every once and a while. They can be on different levels of the house than me for a bit, with August fully capable of carefully going up and down the stairs. When we go to other people’s houses, I can sit with the adults and catch up while the kids play in another room, or if we head to a park, both can typically run and play on their own without me frantically having to chase them. Both are potty trained, so no more hauling diaper bags. Even though it only lasted a handful of years, it still feels surreal to leave the house with only a phone, keys, and wallet. And maybe best of all, even though they both continue to be the earliest of risers, we send them to their rooms at the end of the hall to play together during those early morning hours, with the baby monitor turned on to listen in, while we close our eyes for just a little bit longer. A little piece of heaven.


The best parts of these ages, though (I couldn’t pick just one), is the innocence that still remains and the absolutely hysterical things they say. We are still their heroes, and they are still so very in love with their mama and dada. Both boys love so deeply and we are their whole wide world. I don’t ever take it for granted, because soon enough, this will fade. The sweetness is only outdone by the amazingly funny thoughts, sayings, sentences, and conversations we have. They can turn any bad day right around, and as much as I try, I just can’t keep up with writing it all down. We laugh out loud a hundred times a day, and not many people can say that. We are the lucky ones, and these are the days.


I wanted to write this all out for any of you parents in the trenches, because as much as you already know it, deep down inside, it gets so much better. And you’d do it all a million times over, as hard as it is. Give yourself grace, and a lot of it, and don't you feel guilty, even for a second, for another day of top knots, turning on the TV more than you ever swore you would, or eating from to-go containers. Those days feel like such distant memories now, and guess what? We are all just fine. I also look back at those little faces and think to myself, "They were so small. Why did I expect so much?" Celebrate all of the little victories, but know that struggle will also exist, which is totally, 100% OK.

Sometimes I feel like I need a trophy for making it through, and then I realize: it's right in front of me. Getting a front-row seat to raising best friends…what a gift that truly is.

Monday, October 22, 2018

Halloween Party Inspiration

It's almost that time again! Our yearly Halloween party, which I just love planning for. In case you're throwing your own, or looking for some inspiration, I've rounded up all the things to bring ours to life this year.

1. This delicious looking fall sangria to start the party off right.


2. Pumpkin painting in the brisk fall weather (I hope!), complete with butcher paper labeled with everyone's place.

3. On the menu: these mummy hot dogs, Halloween inspired skewers, "pumpkins" and "ghosts". I like having some healthy options so that it's not all candy and cookies (and then sick kids). 


4. Cookie decorating, compliments of my mother in law who just happened to whip up about 5 dozen gingerbread shaped sugar cookies, just begging for white zig-zagged frosting to transform them into mummies.



5. The cutest (spookiest) trail mix you ever did see.

6. Room on the Broom on Netflix, followed by a Halloween playlist on Spotify that has every version of The Monster Mash known to mankind.

7. A big basket full (or mantle full, in our case) of Halloween books for all the kids to flip through. Our current favorites are "Creepy Pair of Underwear", "They All Saw A Cat", "Bonaparte Falls Apart", and "There's a Monster in Your Book". Books make the best decorations and set the scene.
 

8. A cozy fire in the fireplace to set the Halloween mood.

9. And finally, lots of play time with all the kids, dressed in costume and in character. 

I must admit, I was never a Halloween person or a huge fan of the holiday, but seeing how excited the boys are has changed all that. Bring on the weekend and the craziness! We are so ready!


Thursday, October 11, 2018

Fall Beauty Favorites



1. Tarte Tartelette Toasted Palette: My new favorite eyeshadow palette. So many pretty shades for fall. 

2. Flowy Poncho: I got this for our family pictures and love the way it drapes. Such a good neutral fall staple. 

3. Thermal Knotted Button Down: The comfiest most flattering button down thermal. I also love this in red. 

4. Mules: These have been on my wish list for quite some time. The most versatile mule to pair with skinny jeans and sweaters. Love love love.

5. Knit Tank: The perfect knitted tank to throw under any cardigan.

6. Pumpkin Body Butter: This is SO GOOD and comes in a pack of 2.

7. Platform Wedge Sneaker: Just love these little bootie sneakers that pair with leggings and jeans alike. Perfect for fall mornings at the park with the kids.

8. Good Vibes Tank: We all need more of these, am I right?

9. Waterfall Cardigan: Drapey, flowy perfection in a pretty fall shade.

10. Textured Crossbody Bag: Love the look of this fringed leather bag. 

11. Burt’s Bees Fig Lip Shimmer: I’ve been using this for years. A great shade that doesn’t dry out your lips.

12. OPI Nail Polish: So, so, so pretty. Currently wearing on both fingers and toes.

Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Our Fall Bucket List


October. HOW. Let me first start off by saying this:


Now that that’s out of the way, I figured I was past due on putting pen to paper and jotting down everything we want to do this fall, which really is such a fun time of year. It’s always even more magical experiencing it through the 4 little blue eyes that live in this house, who just simply can’t believe there’s a holiday all about candy.
Here are some of the things that we’ve checked off, or are hoping to, in the coming weeks.

1. Make pumpkin muffins. We used two different recipes, one of which was a healthier variety for the boys to eat for their breakfast before school. They have lots of good stuff like Greek yogurt, granola, and pumpkin, and we chose to sprinkle them with flax seed and chia seeds along with the granola. We also made these, which are more like dessert with their chocolate chips, but oh-so-good.

2. Decorate the front porch with mums. Such a pretty little stoop to come home to. Don't mind the spilled coffee on my shoes. Story of my life.


3. Watch Hocus Pocus. Oskar wasn’t into it last year, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed he’ll love it as much as I do this time around. 

4. Make apple crisp. And if we’re really rocking this list, go apple picking to make said apple crisp. The boys have no attention span for this whatsoever, so we’ll see…

5. Pick up some apple cider doughnuts from a bakery for a weekend morning breakfast.

6. Kick off our soup-Sunday tradition. We’ve only made clam chowder and white chicken chili so far, so I really need to hop to it and plan out everything else we want to make this October/November. Some past favorites include loaded baked potato soup and pumpkin tomato soup that we serve with grilled cheese. 

7. Roast s’mores in the fireplace. 

8. Go on a leaf scavenger hunt that doesn’t end in me contracting poison ivy. Why yes, you ask…I sure did pick poison ivy, put it in a bag to bring it home, glue it to construction paper and proudly display it on the refrigerator last year. The next morning my hands, wrists, and arms were covered. Matt made me save that little art project in the baby book once the leaves were dried out.


9. Make a fall sangria. This recipe looks so good.

10. Host our annual Halloween party with pumpkin painting, lots of treats, and Room on the Broom movie viewing action. I just love this little tradition we’ve fallen into, mainly because of the sweet pictures and little faces we get to look back on every year to see just how much all the kids have grown. I mean, just look…


11. Go to as many hayrides as we can. We have three local farms near us that have the cutest rides set up to go to the pumpkin patch, where there are also lots of activities for kids to run around and do while the adults sip coffee or apple cider. Yes. Please.


12. Carve pumpkins with the kiddos. August says he wants a Batman pumpkin (shocker), and Oskar’s going the traditional route with a toothy jack-o-lantern. 

13. Take Oskar costume shopping, 1:1. He takes his time with everything, and you can’t rush this kid to make a decision as important as what he’s going to dress up as. Hoping we can get away for a little date to stroll the aisles, try on some different options, and have him excitedly pick out just the right one.

14. Make Halloween slime. While slime making is a favorite around here, really upping the ante with the Halloween edition by adding green glitter glue, googly eyes, and plastic flies.

15. And last but not least, I’m still on the fence here, but really thinking that Oskar would love a haunted house. We’re going to start off with a haunted trail walk that our township hosts, then go from there. He rode a haunted house ride at an amusement park this summer and couldn’t stop talking about it. 

And there you have it. Just about all we could possibly squeeze into a month, but we’re going for it. Let me know if there’s anything else you’ve added to your list, or any fun traditions you look forward to!
 
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